“You will grieve, but your grief will turn to joy.” John 16:20
I have been sad for a variety of reasons— several friends who are seriously ill, others who are dying, friends who are in between things in life and living without being able to look very far ahead, and my own little list of feeling useless, etc. –and then feeling guilty for such darkness in the midst of much that is beautiful, life-giving and worthy of joy.
I hear these words above as a commandment to grieve.
Go on, grieve, there is much that calls for grief, grief is not the wrong thing to do, it is called for!
There is a form of power in grieving, in lamentation. This power source is not automatic, perhaps not even likely when we are lost in hard places. When we do manage to come through those hard places and back into the light this happens through the opening that grief and lament accomplish inside of us.
We open to each other, and to the Holy One.
That opening is another power aspect of grief and lament.
By means of this opening we are moved towards each other, into each others’ arms, hearts, and tears.